Cutting Cords to Clients after Psychic Readings

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Do you sometimes find yourself thinking a lot about a reading after you’ve completed it?

Even if you’re thinking a little too much about the positive results of a session or musing over a client’s grateful feedback, this often indicates that:

  • you have not properly logged out of the Akashic Records.
  • you have not completely released from the connection to the client.
  • you have not cleared the cords that formed between you and your client.

Obviously, for a few minutes immediately following the reading, you are going to think about it. (Of course.) And you may think about your client once in a while for a long time into the future, depending on how frequently you are in contact with her.

An appropriate amount of thought and some level of emotion are not “issues.”

But, if — after attempting to log out of a reading — you notice that you continue to have recurring thoughts about the client multiple times in a day, there may still be energy that needs to be cleared.

Cords to Your Clients

Whenever you perform a psychic reading, a cord is formed.

Even if you’re conscientiously logging out of the Akashic Records after completing a reading session, make sure that you’re also clearing the cords that formed while you were connected to that person’s energy.

The circumstances don’t have to be “negative” — even a reading that went really, really well can leave cords that drain your energy. It’s like accidentally leaving the refrigerator door ajar.

Post-Reading Energy Clearing Rituals

When I end a client reading or complete a mentoring session, I ask my angels to cut these cords.

(I don’t ask my spirit guides to do it — spirit guides give me information, while entities that exist at a higher vibration, such as archangels, are more effective with influencing energy.)

I combine the intention, visualization, and verbal request with a physical action — I use my hands to “wipe away” the cords from my body, as if I’m clearing away spider webs that I just walked through.

The physical action might resemble scraping beads of water off my face and body. I know an energy healer who shakes out his hands as if they have some sticky or dusty substance all over them. I have another intuitive colleague who makes a motion with her hands that looks as if she is removing a scarf from around her neck and tossing it aside.

Do you perform a clearing ritual of your own, in addition to logging off?

Since I do so many readings and sessions on my iPhone, I’ve also “programmed” additional clearing into the removal of my earbuds. I’ve established a protocol with my angels and guides that says “When I remove these earbuds from my ears after a call is done, the literal cords of the earphones falling away from my head represent the energetic cords between myself and the client detaching.”

That has worked really well for me — it ensures an additional strict discipline of cord-cutting on “autopilot,” even if I forget, am distracted or interrupted.

Often the cords with clients feel really good and we subconsciously want to hang onto them. If I find myself still re-playing the conversation an hour later (or whenever), then that’s a red flag that I haven’t properly cleared from the reading.

I know it sounds obvious, but I think we’re all a little guilty of becoming relaxed or sloppy about clearing the energy after a psychic reading. It reminds me of how much I want to skip a cool down after a work out, yet it’s as important as the warm up and the performance itself.

Take a look at your log off and clearing rituals — especially if you’re feeling distracted or drained — and ask yourself honestly if you might be slacking off.

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10 Things They Don’t Tell You about Being a Professional Intuitive

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1. Being a lightworker may actually require you to assist those who are lost among shadows or even in deep darkness. Those who walk in the light are not the ones who need you most.

2. Even when you are tired, stressed, feeling insecure, feeling like you’re not at your best, that you’re not in a strong enough state to perform a reading, when your intentions are to be a vessel for someone else, the energy and information you require will show up.

3. It’s not always about retrieving answers — more often times than not the client needs you to reframe her questions.

4. More people are turned on by what you do — intrigued, interested, curious — than turned off. Hardly anyone thinks you’re “crazy” and more people than you ever imagined — nearly everyone you meet — wants to talk to you about what you do.

5. Being “able” to do psychic readings for people starts with the simple decision that you’re willing to try in order to learn and develop your abilities.

6. The confidence you feel you need before you can start giving readings actually comes from giving readings. Whatever confirmation you’re waiting on, that you think will happen before you begin, will be waiting for you when you dive in.

7. You may not necessarily ever know “for sure” that you’re right — unless and/or until your client tells you so.

8. It’s actually easy, rewarding, and pleasurable! Being a professional psychic does not make you feel “insane;” and people are not coming out of the woodwork to judge you. There need be no victims here.

9. You’re not in competition with any other intuitive. There are “enough” clients for everyone.

10. You can develop psychic abilities. You can learn how to become a professional intuitive — from a combination of intention, experience, and guidance. You will acquire different skills from other intuitives, and you will likely have not just one teacher but many over the course of your lifetime.

What would you add to this list? Those of you who are already professional intuitives, what do you know now that you would not have foreseen before accepting your path?

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How Do You Respond to Someone Who May Be Suicidal or Mentally Disturbed?

Today I received an email from a woman who just seems to be… off.

She says she feels suicidal but she’s also experiencing a synchronicity involving a Gaelic word that means “sanctified.” She has not requested a reading or inquired about how to book a private session with me. She just writes “Can you help me?

Honestly, I get a very bad vibe from this message. My first thought is someone is trying to mess with me; my second thought is that maybe this is serious, but I’m not sure what I could possibly do for her.

How do you handle emails from someone who might be potentially disturbed?”

Kate, Intuitive Consultant

Less Obvious/ Less Serious Circumstances

Sometimes, a person may approach you in a way that causes “alarms” to go off and “red flags” to start waving — you may not have anything specific or obvious that you can put your finger on — it may just feel “off” or “odd.”

Ignoring your intuition is one way to learn to honor your inner guidance — the hard way.

Trust that there’s a very good reason why your intuition or your instincts are triggered.

I recently had a powerful negative emotional reaction to a comment posted on my blog — I went against my gut, approved the comment, and attempted to answer the questions of someone who definitely felt “off” to me.

Within minutes, this person was bombarding my site with a flood of additional comments — attacking me personally, calling me every name in the book… Pure hatred and socially unacceptable behavior.

This always sucks. But, honestly, it happens much less often than I might have anticipated when I started doing this kind of work.

It happens very rarely, but it does happen.

Serious Circumstances (Physical Danger, Suicide)

When someone threatens suicide, confesses to feeling suicidal, just mentions the word “suicide” or even implies it indirectly by saying things like “I’m afraid of what I’ll do” — always take any instance surrounding suicide as real and serious.

Yes, there are people who throw the word “suicide” around loosely or imply it as a means of getting attention or emotionally manipulating others — BUT ask yourself:

What is the difference between someone “just saying it” and someone who is truly in crisis?

People who claim they are considering suicide to manipulate, mess with, control, upset, or get attention from other people are not emotionally healthy, anyway. Period.

You can never know the difference with 100% certainty, beyond a shadow of a doubt; therefore, you should always assume any threat of suicide has real potential.

Gnarly Dark EnergyAll academic training programs in any type of coaching, counseling, therapy, and/or social work universally advise this approach.

As an intuitive, psychic, spiritual adviser, energy healer, alternative practitioner — whatever label you may use — you will inevitably encounter clients with clinical psycho-therapeutic issues.

What I mean by the word “clinical” is that their circumstances require licensed, professional attention. Depending on your own education, level of training and certification, you may or may not be equipped (legally or practically) to provide that degree of care.

As a spiritual intuitive, the Universe may have given you the task of delivering a critical piece of advice, at a specific time, pointing a person in the right direction toward the care she needs. It could be potentially life-saving, so don’t discount your role as “small” just because you are not the “final destination.”

Here’s how I might handle an email like the one you describe receiving:

“I’m really sorry that you’re going through such a hard time. I’m glad that you contacted me because I believe your reaching out represents a real opportunity for you to turn this situation around. Sometimes, the best way for God or our spirit guides or the Universe to assist us is by putting us in touch with real people, in the real world, who have the skills and resources to truly make a difference.

I am very concerned that you’re feeling suicidal and I want you to talk to someone who can help you better than I can…

Please call this number ______.”

  1. Without contributing to the drama of the situation, simply be compassionate and acknowledge that she’s having a difficult time.
  2. Commend her for reaching out to you (to anyone).
  3. Let her know you want to be sure she receives the assistance she needs, and you cannot offer that (this may be due to geographical distance, the limitations of email, or your degree of training — be honest and say so).
  4. What you can do is encourage her that it’s time to seek out another source of assistance, and direct her to contact a clinical psychotherapist, or a social worker, or a women’s shelter in her area, depending on her situation.

It helps to have a few national hotlines, web links, or other resources handy for specific circumstances — suicide, drug/alcohol abuse, domestic violence, pregnancy.

You can always do a quick web search before responding, but do that search for someone — put her at least one step closer to contacting the assistance she needs.

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

1-800-273-8255

(United States)

I’d love to hear your own advice to Kate — for all of us who do this kind of work.

How do you handle it when you’re approached or contacted by someone “outside the comfortable norm” of your average client profile?

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Psychic Boxes and Bubbles

Image - Bubble BoxThe Oneness — the Connection between All Things — is central to your reality as an intuitive.

Some would argue that any “separateness” is an illusion — more an abstraction of reality than a fact.

Yet, to maintain the balance between your professional effectiveness and your well-being, working as an intuitive requires you to continually explore and manipulate perspectives of connection and separation.

Healthy Psychic Distance

In addition to rituals of psychic protection and energy clearing, there are ways to create healthy psychic distance — even when you’re in the middle of an intentional reading.

Sometimes you DO have to retreat into yourself.
When you’re physically ill, feeling tired or stressed or a little bit blue, the connection can cause discomfort, anxiety, or even pain — the sensitivity, the empathy, the input, the impulses and pulses of information, the psychic data — the vibes you normally might invite and labor to maintain can feel unwanted, unmanageable, and unhealthy.

Little Boxes

Instead of avoiding your intuition or totally yanking the plug on a reading, “put a box around” the information. In clinical psychotherapeutic terminology, the concept is very similar to “compartmentalization.”

Choose to identify exterior thoughts and feelings as separate from your own — and contained within a different energetic space and/or contained away from your mind and body.

Clairvoyance
Visualize the images you receive as existing inside a frame, or viewed through a window, or appearing on a monitor (like a television or computer screen).

Clairaudience
You can often control psychic sound as you might a stereo or other audio equipment. Imagine yourself manipulating the controls on a radio, such as turning the volume down or changing channels. You can even hit the mute button or turn it off.

Blow Bubbles

Clairsentience
It’s a little trickier to impose psychic distance when emotions are involved. If you’re an empath, you’ve probably grown accustomed to absorbing the emotional vibes of other people and mistakenly accepting these feelings as your own.

You can control much of this phenomenon by consciously identifying that some of the emotions you experience are not your own.

Creating this “psychic box” may require a bit of visualization as well as feeling. Picture yourself, other people — every other entity — as dwelling inside a bubble, like Glinda the Good Witch.

Question the origin of the emotions:

  • Who do these feelings belong to?
  • When and where did they originate?
  • When and where did you come into contact with them?

Claircognizance
The very definition of claircognizance is direct thought download — thoughts are just there. You just know, and you don’t know how, when, or why you came to know.

Adapt the bubbles visualization from the section above on clairsentience — impose the concept of separation and compartmentalization. Then, invoke an interior animation or instant replay of events. Ask your spirit guides to supply information.

Investigate the origin of the thoughts, facts, data, or ideas:

  • Did these thoughts belong to someone else?
  • When and where were they first channeled, created, or manifested?
  • When and where — and perhaps by whom — were they projected to you?

By employing boxes and bubbles, you can remain consciously aware while imposing just a little — just enough — psychic distance.

What techniques do you use in this context that the rest of us might like to borrow?
Please share in the comments.

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The Main Difference between Intuition and the Thinking Mind

One of the questions I am most often asked about developing your intuition is some form of:

“How do you tell the difference between your intuitive impulses and your thoughts?”

While there are many nuanced ways we could discuss the potential answers to that question, most of them would only philosophically complicate the issue.

If you’re asking this question, you’re looking for a practical answer not a complicated one.

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A General, Practical Rule for Discerning Intuitive Information

Intuition (or the intuitive mind) — the channel where you receive divine guidance, psychic impulses, where you hear the voices of your spirit guides — is immediate, subtle, short and sweet. Intuition is automatic and brief.

Simplicity and Brevity
One way you can tell the difference between your Intuition and your ego-driven Thinking Mind:

The Thinking Mind (or the ego) — the interior monologue that chatters away, drowning out and unraveling your intuition — never shuts up. It goes on and on, endlessly amusing itself saying the same things in infinitely different ways.

By comparison, signs, intuition, divine guidance, communication from spirit guides, or messages from the Universe may also be repetitive, but they tend to retain that quiet simplicity. They are still consistent, even though they may repeat through multiple vessels, formats, or sources.

A common example of simple consistency combined with repetition and everyday sources would be: the exact same message, nearly word for word, spoken to you by more than one person, often in a relatively short span of time.

Do you have a trick, technique, best practice, or method for telling the difference between intuition and wishful thinking? Please share it in the comments.

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