Coming Out of the Psychic Closet

The readers of this blog can be divided into two simple groups:

  • those who have already identified themselves to the world as a spiritual healer, intuitive, psychic, etc
  • and those who have yet to take that leap

This post is clearly for those who are standing on the edge, still learning to fly, looking for a reassuring future glimpse of the path that they are on. This remains a Really Big Deal for a lot of people.

(If you are already one of the pros, I would appreciate any wisdom you'd like to contribute regarding going public about your life purpose. Please send me a link to your own blog if you've written about this topic. I may want to include it in the resources at the end.)

COMING OUT OF THE PSYCHIC CLOSET I do remember what it felt like to jump that first initial hurdle of "putting myself out there" -- talking publicly about mystical and paranormal experiences, my belief in the presence of spirit guides and angels, and (perhaps the most difficult admission to make to the world) that I hear Voices.

There are way too many jokes about "obeying the voices in your head" for it not to make you a bit hesitant...

Even though I can intellectually recall the fear I felt up until a few months prior to starting Shift Your Spirits (in 2006), I honestly can't truly feel how or why I could have been so "panicked" -- I mean, I know that I was, but I know it like it's something that happened to someone else.

In my present everyday life, I forget. It's just not the Monster I had built it up to be. I moved so far through and beyond that fear so quickly... I am only reminded when a client or student brings it up. But the questions about this general fear -- "what will other people think of me?" -- come fairly often from people who are venturing into personal blogging on a great variety of topics, not all of them necessarily "mystical."


  • "What are my friends and family going to say?"
  • "What if people think I'm nuts?"
  • "What do you do when people write and tell you you're going to Hell?"

These people are not your audience. They are not your clients! (Some of them may not really qualify as "friends," if they can't evaluate who you are as opposed to what you are called or what you do for a living.)

Although you may want your friends and family to be fans of your work, that may not be realistic, regardless of the topic. Maybe the feeling of being potentially criticized or judged becomes more intensified when your interests involve something "controversial" or "eccentric" -- something different people have vastly different opinions about -- but the disconnect is there with all kinds of topics.

Turn it around for a moment -- with your friends and family as the authors, with topics of their choice, and you as a potential audience:

  • Let's say your mother is passionate about quilting, but you have absolutely zero desire or skill to even sew a missing button on your shirt -- if your mother starts a blog about quilting and sewing, how closely are you to going to be reading her content?
  • Let's say you have a couple of friends who are crazy about restoring classic cars, but car talk is a foreign language to you and you can't even drive a stick -- if they open a garage, would you really be expected to hang out and hand them tools?

You may not be their audience; they may not be yours. This has absolutely zero impact on all the like-minded people out there who do share your beliefs and interests.

Visualize your audience in a physical situation -- you're live on stage in an auditorium filled with people who love to follow your work. There are two or three chairs on the front row still empty -- these were reserved for a few judgmental family members.

Do you not go on stage until they arrive? What if they never arrive? Do you cancel your presentation, empty the auditorium, refund everyone's money, and send the masses home disappointed? Do those three empty seats dictate your connection with the hundreds (or even thousands) who are present, eager and willing?

What about the lives you can truly impact for the better? Why isn't that the most important thing to consider?

Before I began publishing Shift Your Spirits, I was insecure about (and even ignorant of) the existence of my own audience -- I had no idea how many people would be interested in what I wrote about....

Like me, you may only discover this security after the fact, after taking that leap of faith.

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Interview Series If this conversation resonates with you, I encourage you to check out a series of interviews on "Coming Out of the Psychic Closet" by Kara at Conduit of Joy.